31. March 2010 by student.

Is cheating now considered an average standard among married men? Acknowledging the fact that cheaters have been around forever, today they have turned into these serial cheaters. Considering standing by your husband after one moment of weakness, distrust, and loose behavior, is one thing (even that makes me sick). However, twelve/plus women. Yuck! While watching the news, Tiger Woods and Jesse James brought to my attention that the saying needs to change. “Track your Man” . Sandra Bullock can afford to install camera in her house, place a tracking device on his vehicles, get his phone records, and even hire a private investigator. Seriously guys? Do you want us to get Crazy? I mean, Tiger goes to rehab, now Jesse, give me a break. They are not sex addicts, that’s like pleading insanity in a trial. What a joke.  I think women should NOT be so accepting of affairs, it is getting out of control. Plus, No one can afford a Divorce in this economy, right?   I know, I know women cheat too, but thanks to men like Clinton, Edwards, Woods, and James, you guys are in the dog house right now. Sorry.

INFIDELITY STATISTICS:

 -50 percent of Americans say President Clinton’s adultery makes his moral standard “about the same as the average married man,” according to a Time-CNN poll.

-22 percent of married men have strayed at least once during their married lives.

-14 percent of married women have had affairs at least once during their married lives.

-70 percent of married women and 54 percent of married men did not know of their spouses’ extramarital activity.

-Cheating spouse statistics confirm that 50 and 70 percent of married men (between 38 and 53 million men) have cheated or will cheat on their wives. One study found that 2/3 of the wives (26 to 36 million women) whose husbands were cheating had no idea their husbands were having an affair - largely because they failed to recognize the telltale signs.

TELL TALE SIGNS OF CHEATING, By C.R. “Bob” Brown, Master Investigator:

* At the beginning of an affair the mate that is cheating is more attentive to his spouse. This is due to guilt that the cheater may be feeling at the time.

* After the affair has been going on for a while the person cheating seems to find fault with the person he/she may be living with to try to justify the affair in their mind.

* Cheating spouses may lose attention in the activities in the home. They don’t show interest in the livelihood of you or the children that live in the home. Nor do they have any desires to do any fix-ups to the home (i.e. lawn care, house repairs, etc…..)

* Intuition (gut feeling) that something is not right usually is a sign you may have a cheating problem “when in doubt check them out”.

* Cheaters may have a change in sex life (i.e. more sex, less sex) as well as unexplained sexual requests.

* The cheater has a definite change in attitude towards everyone in the home, especially the mate (i.e. if he/she didn’t act the way they do, well then maybe I wouldn’t be doing the things I do).

* Another sign is “Finances”. “If someone wants to play they have to pay” therefore keeping an eye on their monies (i.e. check stubs, bank account balances, credit card bills, etc…) would tell you whether their spending more money than usual.

* Grooming habits will change. Cheaters will be more attentive to their person (e.i. the way they dress, frequent bathing, physical fitness, grooming of their hair, switching of colognes, etc…).

* Physical signs to look for to determine whether or not someone is having an affair is lipstick on the collar, odors of cologne/perfume on a shirt/blouse, checking underwear for secretion stains. You can also check their wallets and/or the glove compartments of their car to see if they left receipts, pieces of paper with phone numbers, addresses, condoms, etc.

* You may want to monitor your spouse for two weeks. During this time keep track of the mileage on their car. Monitor the time they leave for work and the time they come home. Keep a calendar and note the times, this should help you establish a pattern. If your mate claims to be working late, check paycheck stubs to verify this overtime.

* Be tuned in to home telephone calls when your mate has a tendency to whisper or gives a quick answer and immediately hangs up or when you answer the telephone and get an abrupt hang up.

* Many cheaters use cellular telephones to communicate with their lovers. Should your mate have a cellular telephone you may want to get a detailed billing of the calls made from the cellular phone to determine whether a certain number has been frequently called. A good area to start looking is for the first number called when your mate first leaves for work and the same number called again right before they return home.

* Female cheaters are more discreet in the selection of a lover .  Most females are looking for a longer lasting relationship rather than a “one night stand”. In past years men were the aggressors, in society today, with the increase of women in the work force, women have become equally aggressive.

C.R. “Bob” Brown, has been working and dealing with thousands of “domestic” related cases over the past 30 years. He recently received the “Lifetime Achievement Award” for his excellence in domestic cases from the National Association of Investigative Specialists.

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31. March 2010 by student.

    The belief that women should be” gate keepers” for sexuality and men should be the. This belief contributes to the myth that male sexuality is overpowering and women should control the situation.

    The problem is female gender roles also encourage passivity and not how3 to to aggressively defend themselves. People who believe that women can’t be raped against their will overlook the gender roles.

   The media portrays a women typically resisting her attacker and the melting passionately into his arms.

this helps to reinforce the myth that women secretly wat to be raped and she might as well relax and enjoy it. This overlooks the fact that men are much stronger and much faster most women. A women clothing will inhibit her escape. If a women does fantasies about be raped. She is in complete control, where as with a actual it is all about making your victim powerless. Fantasies contain no threat or physical harm.

                                       Tips for Rape prevention

To avoid stranger Rape:

1)  Lock your car, park in a lighted areas,install dead-bolt on your door, don’t open yoru door for strangers.

2)  Make yourself as strong as possible. Take defense classes, carry a loud whistle with you, demosrate self-confidence with your body language. Research shows rapist tend to select women who appear passive and weak.

  3) During an attack run away if possible, talk to the rapist to stall, attempt to alert others by screaming. When all else fails fight back and scream causing scene.

To Prevent acquaintance Rape:

  1)  Be careful on the first date, group date in a public area. Avoid alcohol and drugs.

2)   Be clear that your boundary are clear and they are respectful, be firm. If they get loud ,get loud right back and make a scene if need be.

(Crooks and Baun, 2008; King, 2009)

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31. March 2010 by student.

The social problem of animal abuse is nothing new. It has been around for hundreds of years although the first case was never documented until 1940. This is because so many people feel that animals are so far below us that we can beat or torture them and it is not worthy to call a crime. Thankfully, America and many countries around the world have come to recognize the severity of being cruel to animals. Being heartless enough to actually go through with any kind of torture to animals makes me question the person’s mentality and behavior towards people. It has been proven that being cruel to animals at a young age has a strong correlation with growing up and being a convicted murderer. Besides that overwhelming fact, the facts on just every day animal abuse are also staggering. There were 806 reported cases of animal abuse in 2009 in America. They deaths were caused from a range of hanging, mutilation, shooting, hoarding, and many other types of murder. No matter how someone tries to rationalize these things to me, I still imagine innocent animals who can’t fight for themselves, being murdered unfairly. I think there should be harsher punishment for anyone involved with animal cruelty and more media attention towards animal abuse. These two ideas will work to improve animal treatment, and lower the rate of animal abuse crimes.

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31. March 2010 by student.

In the technological age we live in now days we can be connected to the entire world at the click of a button. But is this instant accessibility a good thing? Take a look at facebook the worlds biggest social network, you can become “friends” with anyone in the world who is on facebook and look at a snap shot of their life by looking through their pictures. But is this a good thing? When most people get a friend request on facebook they accept and they may not even know the person, and that person now has the ability to look at all your pictures. This person could be harmless or a deranged petafile, or it could even be an employer looking through your pictures to see if you really were sick last Thursday. Facebook was introduced in 2006 and 4 years later it has become part of our culture, almost everyone has one from 10 year old kids to parents in their 50’s! Being so new the social norms haven’t been well established there are some basic values but for the most part on facebook anything goes. Facebook has brought about social change in the world now when doing any type of work involving a computer it is now expected to have a facebook break so you can go stalk your friends. But are people starting to abuse this power? The answer is yes. People are making pictures available to the world that should be private, when pictures are on facebook you have to look out for who can see them such as parents and future employers. When girls get accepted into sororities, the sororities make them go through their facebook and remove all the inappropriate pictures. Even with all these negative consequences facebook is only the beginning, social networking is the way of the future there will always be a myspace,facebook, or a chatroulette. But it is the way in which we establish values and norms that we will not abuse this power of instant access and use it for the good of the world.

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31. March 2010 by student.

Every person you see, whether white, black, young or old, has been granted the greatest gift there is, the gift of life. In our day and age we have the capability to help sustain this precious gift longer than ever before. Who is it than that has the right to determine who does and does not deserve the medical care needed to help sustain a long and prosperous life? Now, more than ever, we need the work towards sustaining life for all of the worlds people.

In many cases, when the idea of healthcare for all comes up, many ask the question : is it truly posible to offer this perk to everyone? Many countries do indeed provide healthcare to all of their citizens, and according to statistics, these countries experience a relatively higher life expectancy. According to the New York Times, Canada, Sweden, Spain, and France are among the countries that opt to provide their citizens with healthcare. In these countries, citizens life expectancies sit above the 79.4 year mark, whereas Americans are expected to expire at 78 years of age. The United States is a dominant force in comparison to many of the worlds nations, yet when it comes to healthcare we have truly fallen behind. Numerous problems and issues have arisen  as a result of our healthcare dilema, and has consequently resulted in many of our nations citizens living with a strong sense of discontent with our current state of living.  This discontent and distrust in our government makes it nearly impossible for our country to progress forward and continue to raise the bar. I feel that if healthcare is what the citizens of our nation demand, than we as a whole must work towards acheiving the goals we desire, regardless of the burden it may put on our shoulders and the shoulders of our government officials.

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