31. March 2010 by student.

Is cheating now considered an average standard among married men? Acknowledging the fact that cheaters have been around forever, today they have turned into these serial cheaters. Considering standing by your husband after one moment of weakness, distrust, and loose behavior, is one thing (even that makes me sick). However, twelve/plus women. Yuck! While watching the news, Tiger Woods and Jesse James brought to my attention that the saying needs to change. “Track your Man” . Sandra Bullock can afford to install camera in her house, place a tracking device on his vehicles, get his phone records, and even hire a private investigator. Seriously guys? Do you want us to get Crazy? I mean, Tiger goes to rehab, now Jesse, give me a break. They are not sex addicts, that’s like pleading insanity in a trial. What a joke.  I think women should NOT be so accepting of affairs, it is getting out of control. Plus, No one can afford a Divorce in this economy, right?   I know, I know women cheat too, but thanks to men like Clinton, Edwards, Woods, and James, you guys are in the dog house right now. Sorry.

INFIDELITY STATISTICS:

 -50 percent of Americans say President Clinton’s adultery makes his moral standard “about the same as the average married man,” according to a Time-CNN poll.

-22 percent of married men have strayed at least once during their married lives.

-14 percent of married women have had affairs at least once during their married lives.

-70 percent of married women and 54 percent of married men did not know of their spouses’ extramarital activity.

-Cheating spouse statistics confirm that 50 and 70 percent of married men (between 38 and 53 million men) have cheated or will cheat on their wives. One study found that 2/3 of the wives (26 to 36 million women) whose husbands were cheating had no idea their husbands were having an affair - largely because they failed to recognize the telltale signs.

TELL TALE SIGNS OF CHEATING, By C.R. “Bob” Brown, Master Investigator:

* At the beginning of an affair the mate that is cheating is more attentive to his spouse. This is due to guilt that the cheater may be feeling at the time.

* After the affair has been going on for a while the person cheating seems to find fault with the person he/she may be living with to try to justify the affair in their mind.

* Cheating spouses may lose attention in the activities in the home. They don’t show interest in the livelihood of you or the children that live in the home. Nor do they have any desires to do any fix-ups to the home (i.e. lawn care, house repairs, etc…..)

* Intuition (gut feeling) that something is not right usually is a sign you may have a cheating problem “when in doubt check them out”.

* Cheaters may have a change in sex life (i.e. more sex, less sex) as well as unexplained sexual requests.

* The cheater has a definite change in attitude towards everyone in the home, especially the mate (i.e. if he/she didn’t act the way they do, well then maybe I wouldn’t be doing the things I do).

* Another sign is “Finances”. “If someone wants to play they have to pay” therefore keeping an eye on their monies (i.e. check stubs, bank account balances, credit card bills, etc…) would tell you whether their spending more money than usual.

* Grooming habits will change. Cheaters will be more attentive to their person (e.i. the way they dress, frequent bathing, physical fitness, grooming of their hair, switching of colognes, etc…).

* Physical signs to look for to determine whether or not someone is having an affair is lipstick on the collar, odors of cologne/perfume on a shirt/blouse, checking underwear for secretion stains. You can also check their wallets and/or the glove compartments of their car to see if they left receipts, pieces of paper with phone numbers, addresses, condoms, etc.

* You may want to monitor your spouse for two weeks. During this time keep track of the mileage on their car. Monitor the time they leave for work and the time they come home. Keep a calendar and note the times, this should help you establish a pattern. If your mate claims to be working late, check paycheck stubs to verify this overtime.

* Be tuned in to home telephone calls when your mate has a tendency to whisper or gives a quick answer and immediately hangs up or when you answer the telephone and get an abrupt hang up.

* Many cheaters use cellular telephones to communicate with their lovers. Should your mate have a cellular telephone you may want to get a detailed billing of the calls made from the cellular phone to determine whether a certain number has been frequently called. A good area to start looking is for the first number called when your mate first leaves for work and the same number called again right before they return home.

* Female cheaters are more discreet in the selection of a lover .  Most females are looking for a longer lasting relationship rather than a “one night stand”. In past years men were the aggressors, in society today, with the increase of women in the work force, women have become equally aggressive.

C.R. “Bob” Brown, has been working and dealing with thousands of “domestic” related cases over the past 30 years. He recently received the “Lifetime Achievement Award” for his excellence in domestic cases from the National Association of Investigative Specialists.

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31. March 2010 by student.

    The belief that women should be” gate keepers” for sexuality and men should be the. This belief contributes to the myth that male sexuality is overpowering and women should control the situation.

    The problem is female gender roles also encourage passivity and not how3 to to aggressively defend themselves. People who believe that women can’t be raped against their will overlook the gender roles.

   The media portrays a women typically resisting her attacker and the melting passionately into his arms.

this helps to reinforce the myth that women secretly wat to be raped and she might as well relax and enjoy it. This overlooks the fact that men are much stronger and much faster most women. A women clothing will inhibit her escape. If a women does fantasies about be raped. She is in complete control, where as with a actual it is all about making your victim powerless. Fantasies contain no threat or physical harm.

                                       Tips for Rape prevention

To avoid stranger Rape:

1)  Lock your car, park in a lighted areas,install dead-bolt on your door, don’t open yoru door for strangers.

2)  Make yourself as strong as possible. Take defense classes, carry a loud whistle with you, demosrate self-confidence with your body language. Research shows rapist tend to select women who appear passive and weak.

  3) During an attack run away if possible, talk to the rapist to stall, attempt to alert others by screaming. When all else fails fight back and scream causing scene.

To Prevent acquaintance Rape:

  1)  Be careful on the first date, group date in a public area. Avoid alcohol and drugs.

2)   Be clear that your boundary are clear and they are respectful, be firm. If they get loud ,get loud right back and make a scene if need be.

(Crooks and Baun, 2008; King, 2009)

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31. March 2010 by student.

The social problem of animal abuse is nothing new. It has been around for hundreds of years although the first case was never documented until 1940. This is because so many people feel that animals are so far below us that we can beat or torture them and it is not worthy to call a crime. Thankfully, America and many countries around the world have come to recognize the severity of being cruel to animals. Being heartless enough to actually go through with any kind of torture to animals makes me question the person’s mentality and behavior towards people. It has been proven that being cruel to animals at a young age has a strong correlation with growing up and being a convicted murderer. Besides that overwhelming fact, the facts on just every day animal abuse are also staggering. There were 806 reported cases of animal abuse in 2009 in America. They deaths were caused from a range of hanging, mutilation, shooting, hoarding, and many other types of murder. No matter how someone tries to rationalize these things to me, I still imagine innocent animals who can’t fight for themselves, being murdered unfairly. I think there should be harsher punishment for anyone involved with animal cruelty and more media attention towards animal abuse. These two ideas will work to improve animal treatment, and lower the rate of animal abuse crimes.

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31. March 2010 by student.

In the technological age we live in now days we can be connected to the entire world at the click of a button. But is this instant accessibility a good thing? Take a look at facebook the worlds biggest social network, you can become “friends” with anyone in the world who is on facebook and look at a snap shot of their life by looking through their pictures. But is this a good thing? When most people get a friend request on facebook they accept and they may not even know the person, and that person now has the ability to look at all your pictures. This person could be harmless or a deranged petafile, or it could even be an employer looking through your pictures to see if you really were sick last Thursday. Facebook was introduced in 2006 and 4 years later it has become part of our culture, almost everyone has one from 10 year old kids to parents in their 50’s! Being so new the social norms haven’t been well established there are some basic values but for the most part on facebook anything goes. Facebook has brought about social change in the world now when doing any type of work involving a computer it is now expected to have a facebook break so you can go stalk your friends. But are people starting to abuse this power? The answer is yes. People are making pictures available to the world that should be private, when pictures are on facebook you have to look out for who can see them such as parents and future employers. When girls get accepted into sororities, the sororities make them go through their facebook and remove all the inappropriate pictures. Even with all these negative consequences facebook is only the beginning, social networking is the way of the future there will always be a myspace,facebook, or a chatroulette. But it is the way in which we establish values and norms that we will not abuse this power of instant access and use it for the good of the world.

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31. March 2010 by student.

Every person you see, whether white, black, young or old, has been granted the greatest gift there is, the gift of life. In our day and age we have the capability to help sustain this precious gift longer than ever before. Who is it than that has the right to determine who does and does not deserve the medical care needed to help sustain a long and prosperous life? Now, more than ever, we need the work towards sustaining life for all of the worlds people.

In many cases, when the idea of healthcare for all comes up, many ask the question : is it truly posible to offer this perk to everyone? Many countries do indeed provide healthcare to all of their citizens, and according to statistics, these countries experience a relatively higher life expectancy. According to the New York Times, Canada, Sweden, Spain, and France are among the countries that opt to provide their citizens with healthcare. In these countries, citizens life expectancies sit above the 79.4 year mark, whereas Americans are expected to expire at 78 years of age. The United States is a dominant force in comparison to many of the worlds nations, yet when it comes to healthcare we have truly fallen behind. Numerous problems and issues have arisen  as a result of our healthcare dilema, and has consequently resulted in many of our nations citizens living with a strong sense of discontent with our current state of living.  This discontent and distrust in our government makes it nearly impossible for our country to progress forward and continue to raise the bar. I feel that if healthcare is what the citizens of our nation demand, than we as a whole must work towards acheiving the goals we desire, regardless of the burden it may put on our shoulders and the shoulders of our government officials.

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30. March 2010 by student.

You can never please everyone. It seems as soon as the government tries to do something beneficial to society, another group of people complain. Obama’s new health care law is the latest example of such a situation. It isn’t a secret that America’s health care was poor compared to other countries. It has been a large topic in many debates during many elections, but no big steps had been taken to rectify it until now. I’m still under my parents health insurance for another year so I may not be the voice many people want to hear, but I feel if it benefits the majority, it will ultimately benefit our country. And with the signing of this new law,  32 million uninsured Americans will eventually have insurance coverage. In a nut shell, the legislation will require most Americans to obtain health insurance and will offer federal subsidies to lower premiums and increase eligibility for Medicaid. As for benefits for people already covered by insurance, beginning in September, insurance companies will no longer be able to rescind a policy once someone gets sick, nor can they impose lifetime limits on coverage. Today, honest mistakes on a lengthy insurance application, like forgetting to disclose a parent’s high blood pressure, could be grounds for losing your insurance.

“The law takes away the incentive for insurance companies to look for application mistakes,” said Marian Mulkey, senior program officer with the California HealthCare Foundation. “There have been some egregious examples of someone getting cancer triggering a review of years of health history that seems very targeted and punitive.”

Patricia Sevchuk of Ewing, N.J., said her daughter Laura scrupulously paid her Cobra premiums while being treated for late-stage breast cancer. But more than a month after she died in 2008, the insurance company notified her husband that as much as $400,000 would no longer be covered because the medical bills had exceeded a $1 million lifetime cap. Although one oncologist waived her fees after hearing about the family’s plight, other creditors have demanded payment, and bankruptcy remains a possibility.

Hopefully there will be less occurances like the Sevchuck family where a price is put on a life and expected to be paid in full. And as for costs of current premiums, by 2016 there is expected to be little or no increase through employer-sponsored plans. Non-group plans, on the other hand, may incur some increases, but will qualify for federal subsidies that will lower costs for middle- and moderate-income families on average by about 60 percent.

Overall, insurance premiums are expected to stay the same if not suffer a slight increase, but the government is trying to tack of more benefits and flexibility for the average American. With more flexibility and options we, as a people, are less likely to fall victims to slight human error and be left without health insurance at the drop of a pin. Some people may complain that health care prices need to be dropped for the individual, but if the plan helps the country as a whole then I say it’s worth a shot. Afterall, the sum is equal to the whole of its parts, is it not?

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30. March 2010 by student.

Senate Bill 6 has been to many current and potential teachers what the new health care law has been to small government advocates: the apocalypse. The goal of SB 6 is to hold teachers more accountable for their student’s progress. It also rewards those teachers whose students exceed expectations. SB 6 would offer $900 million to school districts that adopt merit pay plans for teachers based heavily on how well their students do on standardized tests. It also would end tenure, putting all teachers on one-year contracts. Ending tenure would give principals and districts more flexibility in staffing. For example, it would eliminate the current situation in which districts during lean budget times are forced to cut high-performing but less-experienced teachers on annual contracts because they are required to keep less-qualified staff with guaranteed contracts. Many educators aren’t swayed by the sugar coating though. There are questions to why new legislation is necessary seeing as student performance in Florida has been on the rise in the past decade. At a Jan. 27 Associated Press editors meeting, Gov. Crist said an Education Week Quality Report showed Florida ranked eighth in the nation in public education. Excellent progress considering Florida used to be a regular bottom feeder of the education food chain. I believe that the Senate has the state’s best interests at heart, but again is finding a way to put more importance on standardized test scores than necessary. Perhaps if the Senate spent more time working with public educators instead of driving the bill down their throats, more progress could be made and the state’s education system could finally become less of a laughing stock and more of a success.

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30. March 2010 by student.

Forgiveness, can you be so forgiven?I ask this question of not only all of you, but of myself. I watched a very moving movie on this very same issue just recently.  It was about a man Charles Roberts who was so distraught about the loss of his daughter at birth that it set him over the edge.  Charles Roberts had such anger at God for the loss of his daughter; he set out to seek revenge by taking the lives of 5 innocent Amish girls along with his own.  This movie was a true story that happened in Nickel Mines, Pennsylvania October 2006. The base of the story was about forgiveness, and how the Amish community was able to forgive Charles Roberts for what he had done.  I was very moved by this story and their strength to be so forgiving.  I am a mother with two daughters, and I don’t know that I could ever be so forgiving, or could I be?  I believe in God, and that we are all Gods children.  How is it that my beliefs are so different in the rem of forgiveness?  Charles Roberts took his own life, so there is no punishment to seek, but should I pray for him, and for God to forgive him.  I believe that God forgives all, but do we have too, or will it be a sin not to?

A little history on the Amish:

The history of the Amish church began with a schism in Switzerland within a group of Swiss and Alsatian Anabaptists in 1693 led by Jakob Ammann^[2]. Those who followed Ammann became known as Amish.^[3] In the early 18th century, many Amish and Mennonites emigrated to Pennsylvania for a variety of reasons. Today, the most traditional descendants of the Amish continue to speak Pennsylvania German, also known as Pennsylvania Dutch. There are also Old Order Amish communities, especially in the American state of Indiana, where a dialect of Swiss German predominates.^[4] Over the years, there have been numerous divisions among the Amish churches. The ‘Old Order’ Amish, a conservative faction that withdrew from fellowship with the wider body of Amish in the 1860s, are those that have most emphasized traditional practices and beliefs. As of 2000, over 165,000 Old Order Amish live in Canada and the United States. A new study, produced in 2008, suggests their numbers have increased to 227,000.^[1]Amish church membership begins with baptism, usually between the ages of 16 and 25. It is a requirement for marriage, and once a person has affiliated with the church, she or he may only marry within the faith. Church districts average between 20 to 40 families and worship services are held every other Sunday in a member’s home. The district is led by a bishop and several ministers and deacons ^[5].The rules of the church — the Ordnung — must be observed by every member. These rules cover most aspects of day-to-day living, and include prohibitions or limitations on the use of power-line electricity, telephones and automobiles, as well as regulations on clothing. Many Amish church members may not buy insurance or accept government assistance such as Social Security. As Anabaptists, Amish church members practice nonresistance and will not perform any type of military service. Members who do not conform to these expectations and who cannot be convinced to repent are excommunicated. In addition to excommunication, members may be shunned — a practice that limits social contacts to shame the wayward member into returning to the church. During adolescence (rumspringa or “running around” in some communities), nonconforming behavior that would result in the shunning of an adult who had made the permanent commitment of baptism may meet with a degree of forbearance.^[6]Amish church groups seek to maintain a degree of separation from the non-Amish world. There is generally a heavy emphasis on church and family relationships. They typically operate their own one-room schools and discontinue formal education at grade eight. They value rural life, manual labor and humility. Due to intermarriage among this relatively small original population, some groups have increased incidences of certain inheritable conditions.^[

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Amish_school_shooting

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30. March 2010 by student.

Based on CarrerBuilder.coms annual survey on absenteeism, one third of employees played hooky last year. While one employer told the truth (because her physic told her to) most of the others came up with an excuse for their boss.  The most popular reason from the survey for not coming to work that day was simply just not wanting to.  Only nine percent of workers wanted to skip a meeting or work on an overdue project. Another one of the most popular excuses employees skipped work was because they had other things to do, or they wanted to catch up on their rest (Ferrara, par. 3).

Medical appointments, quality time with loved ones, and personal related errands was another major excuse surveyors confessed to not coming into work. Eighteen percent of employers have fired workers who missed work without an acceptable excuse or a doctor’s note. Some employers called the worker at home, and some have even drove by the workers home to make sure they where they’re supposed to be. So as tempting as it may be to think of an excuse for not coming in that day, the truth is the best route (Ferrera, par. 5).

            Ferrara, Jason.     One third of workers play hooky.     12 Jan 2009.     CNN.     <http://www.cnn.com/2009/LIVING/worklife/01/26/cb.playing.hooky/index.>     23 Jan 2010.

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30. March 2010 by student.

This post will not shove off into the moral rights and wrongs of polygamy, although I will never be involved in any polygamist relationship. Whether, it will discuss what injustices have materialized in select circumstances against women and children. I will also discuss what polygamy is and who practiced it. Most of us are quite aware that polygamy is the act of plural marriages.  More specifically, polygamy is the precise definition I will use. It means 1 man having multiple wives.  Polygamy is not a foreign or new concept. It dates back to Biblical times. Even though God did not approve it; Abraham, David, Jacob, and Solomon all utilized it. ( 17th book of Deuteronomy) More specifically, polygamy is the precise definition I will use. It means 1 man having multiple wives.Imperial China and traditional Islamic nations allow polygamy.  Before the Republic of China was formed; it was a common occurrence for a man to take on more than 1 wife. “The mentality behind this was for procreation and the continuation of the paternal last name” In China, we are all acquainted with the concept of a husband having a first wife, second wife, etc. Some may even be called concubine. But, generally speaking, the first wife is superior. She holds rank. The traditional attitude toward mistresses is reflected in the saying: “wife is not as good as concubine, concubine is not as good as prostitute, and prostitute is not as good as secret affair…” 

Here is an interesting tidbit as to which societies allow polygamy.”According to the Ethnographic Atlas Codebook, of 1231 societies noted, 186 were monogamous. 453 had occasional polygamy, 588 had more frequent polygamy, and 4 had polyandry. At the same time, even within societies which allow polygamy, the actual practice of polygamy occurs relatively rarely. There are exceptions: in Senegal, for example, nearly 47 percent of marriages are multiple”The current controversial dilemma has been the Mormon and the LDS church. There has been a raging battle over polygamy since the 1830’s. It was set forth as a ban by the LDS Church. The members who did not agree broke off. Now, we have today’s issues. Mine are with the injustices against women and children.If you are not aware; there was the compound raid in El Dorado, Texas. They were LDS followers. Here is the reference. http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2008/04/06/AR2008040602001.html.3 The contentions I possess are basically two-fold.For 1, I do not believe a child under the age of 18 should be forced to marry anyone. Let alone an adult male who can pass as your father. In my opinion, this is a form of indentured servitude. These little girls are not prepared for such an emotional, mental, sexual, and physical relationship. Yet, they may be brainwashed into contemplating that this is what they are fated to perform. And, it may be the case where they are threatened with beatings or to become exiled for non-compliance.Second, I postulate that it is every human beings right to make their own decisions. And, this instance could not be nearer to that truth. In the aforementioned article, these women were threatened for speaking up for their indifference. They were bullied into the belief they could be banished. They would never see their family again. How is someone in that situation (let alone a woman, or a minor) presumed to react? It is emotional blackmail. You do not want to be ostracized from the only family and way of life you know. It is a horrible situation to convey on your shoulders. These are the concerns I have.

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