Shoruq Badawi (edison) divorce, and remarriage

         One of the biggest social problem that we have today is getting divorce and remarriage. According to the website divorcemag.com, in 2002, there were 4.1 divorces per 1,000 people in the United States, which makes the United States rank fifth in that category. The Maldives ranked first, with 10.97 divorces per 1,000 people. however there should be some cause and effect that’s causing this problem. In my opinion. The first significant cause of recent rise in the rates of divorce is that women completely change in roles. In the past, men have to earn whole money to afford the expense of family, whereas woman only do housework, hence women have no money leading to depend on husbands’ money. Because of these situations, it is too difficult for most women to separate from their husbands. Nonetheless, these situations entirely change nowadays. The equality between men and women in roles are very clear at the moment, thus women can work outside to earn money, while men share the household tasks such as cooking, cleaning, washing as well as caring for children. It can be clearly seen that women are independent from money as they can earn money by themselves to support their living cost.According to the unites states department of labor:

1. Of the 121 million women age 16 years and over in the U.S., 72 million, or 59.5 percent, were labor force participants—working or looking for work.

2. Women comprised 46.5 percent of the total U.S. labor force and are projected to account for 47 percent of the labor force in 2016.

3. Women are projected to account for 49 percent of the increase in total labor force growth between 2006 and 2016.

4. 68 million women were employed in the U.S.—75 percent of employed women worked on full-time jobs, while 25 percent worked on a part-time basis.

5. The largest percentage of employed women (39 percent) worked in management, professional, and related occupations; 33 percent worked in sales and office occupations; 21 percent in service occupations; 6 percent in production, transportation, and material moving occupations; and 1 percent in natural resources, construction, and maintenance occupations.

Also one of the situation becomes more complicated in divorse and remarriage that involve children from previous marriage, for example suppose that a father remarries someone who also has children from previous marriage and that the father then has additional children with his new spouse. Now the new household contains persons in four different position the father, mother/step mother, the children from both his or her first marriage. Now the father new household my well includes three sets of children. Those from his previous marriage, his new marriage, and his wife previous marriage. I know it seem complicated but not all remarries involves family structures this complex, of course, but whenever children are present from previous marriage, multiple definition arrive The ambiguity about the definition of kinship in families of divorce and remarriages is mirrored in the confusion over how to resolve some of the practical problems these families. I think the best way is to gave a little guidance to currently divorced adult, to remarried adults, and their children as how they should manage, their unfamiliar and complex family life.

One of the best way to try to solve these problem or to try to reduce the divorse rate. In my opinion before getting married a couple should attend a school for marriage that well put them on the right track.

According to Chicagoland marriage resource center :School for Marriage™

School for Marriage is a relationship curriculum for couples. School for Marriage™, provides training and workshops to:prepare couples and individuals for successful relationships

develop effective skills to sustain good relationshipsteach marriage educators and couples techniques for troubled marriages

We also provide Relationship Coaching by appointment.Mission Statement
School for Marriage™ believes in the sacredness of marital relationships and holds a vision for saving marriages. School for Marriage™ challenges couples and marriage educators to act with integrity and mutual respect. School for Marriage™ provides education, training and multiple options for achieving a good marriage.

Philosophy
School for Marriage™ believes in the sacredness of marital relationships and holds a vision for saving marriages. We believe that couples prefer marriage to divorce and need help in accomplishing this when they are in distress. We believe the role of the marriage educator is to facilitate discussion, educate the person(s), honor ambivalence when it is present and focus the couple on the relationship and their hopes for it. Through education and support, skills and techniques can be taught to individuals and couples seeking fulfilling relationships. Our purpose
Our purpose is to prevent divorce whenever possible. Couples on the Cusp®, ambivalent and undecided partners, are taught Stay or Go Techniques® that are relevant to their marital situation. Marriage educators discover the importance of honoring their client’s ambivalence. A negotiated Controlled Separation® contract provides a structure that assists Couples on the Cusp® in slowing down and cooling down in order to make a sane decision and have fewer regrets.This practical intervention in working with couples encourages cooperation, as adversaries become advocates. In this way hope is restored and couples are energized and inspired to reclaim their integrity and recommit to each other. In turn, children and families are spared undue trauma.

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