Shadoe Valentin (Edison) Disciplining your children

Not too long ago, I heard on the news that there was a proposal to ban spanking in California. After I heard that I had to stop and think. Do we want to take away physical disciplinary actions from the parents in this nation? If my son or daughter does something wrong and if I feel he/she needs a spanking to make him/her think twice before that action is done again, then so be it.

I grew up in a family that was very tight knit. Both my parents worked and were very involved in my life, school, activities. I wasn’t always the best child to take care of and I did get into trouble every once in a while. Out of the countless times that I’ve gotten in trouble with my parents, I could count the times that I’ve actually been spanked on one hand. For what ever reason it was that I got spanked, I made sure that I never did it again.

I believe that there is a balance between physical discipline and taking away privileges. I believe that if my child comes home with poor grades, I’m going to cut back recreational time and focus more on studying. If he intentionally hurts a person with no valid cause, than I am going to spank him and make him apologize to who ever he hurt. If he is old enough to drive and he gets a traffic ticket, then he loses his privilege to drive and he has to pay the ticket.

Discipline is not wrong, but discipline should fit the cause for it.

3 Responses to “Shadoe Valentin (Edison) Disciplining your children”

  1. Mr. Andoscia says:

    There are other ways to discipline a child that do not involve violence. People need to learn disciplining techniques that are effective and do not involve power displays like spanking.

    I’m not commenting on the legalization of spanking, mind you. Spanking is a culturally defined thing. But for all future parents out there, there is no reason that I can think of to justify hitting a child. Violence is a failure on the parent’s part to think through appropriate discipline.

  2. student says:

    Brooke Gonnelly (Edison)

    I have a one year old son and I completely disagree with spanking. In fact if there were a case that your child hurt someone intentionally wouldn’t it be pointless to do the same thing to him as punishment? You are saying that he cannot hit but how is he supposed to understand that if mommy or daddy is hitting too. I know that if my son did something wrong and say I slapped his hand he is going to think that it is ok and either hit me back or copy my action another time. There are other ways of disciplining a child be creative you will get through to them you just cant give up. My parents used to take all my stuff away until my room was empty. It made me want to change my attitude thats for sure.

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