Jenn Berghorn (FGCU) Just Friends?

The other day in class Mr. Andoscia asked the question can a guy and a girl be “just friends?” I thought about for a while and came to the conclusion it really depends on the situation. In two different situations I came to two different conclusions. I have a friend who I have known since I was born. Our moms our best friends and we having been spending time with each other since we were in diapers. We used to hang out every day and spend every free moment with each other. We had the nickname name of the “Toy box twins”, and when we were in middle school running for student government together we used the slogan “J&J all the way.” Our parents always told us that we were going to get married. We were such good friends we got jobs together as camp counselors. It was such an amazing time. When I was 17 and was hospitalized for a week he was there every day. He would drive up to St. Pete as soon as he got out of school and spend as long as visiting hours and often way after. Something changed a few months later. He got a girlfriend and she was extremely jealous of me. I have no idea why; I have never had any type of attraction to him, but she seemed to think we were secretly in love with one another. I did not want to create an issue with them so I just kind of backed off and let her spend time with him. As a result we kind of lost touch and he seemed to change. Now we do not hangout at all and while it makes me sad I have made a lot of new friends as a result of it. I still would be there for him if he ever needed anything, and I am sure he would do the exact same for me.

A year or two ago I became really close friends with one of my other guy friends. We began spending a lot of time together. We have a pretty big group of friends so often times we were hanging with the group, and when we were not he and I would hang out. When we were not together we would be texting or talking on the phone so there was not much time without him somehow in my life. About a year ago he decided to call me at 2 in the morning and he was acting really strange on the phone and so I said Jon what is wrong? Then all in one breath he says, “Jenn I like you.” Click. He hung up the phone. So I am lying in my bed wondering what in the world that was all about. The next day we went to my friends party and he was being really weird, and he tried to act like the call was just some joke and he made up a story about how he lost a bet. I felt really awkward because I did not have any feeling for him, and I saw him as my best guy friend. The next few months were pretty weird. Because of his confession I constantly felt uncomfortable around him. I felt like we could no longer be as close of friends. We began fighting and he began knit-picking at everything I would say to him. Needless to say it is a year later and we are stuck in the same place. I do not even speak to him anymore.

So, can a guy and a girl truly be “just friends?” I think it is a question that probably will never be answered because you get varying stories that can change your opinion about it.

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