Robyn Mezzio (Edison) Premarital Sex —Just Say No!

Although there are no really comprehensive studies on this issue, it is estimated that over three-fourths of all newlyweds are not virgins at the time of their wedding.   Shocking?  Not really, when it is so rampantly displayed in the media.  It is common behavior in movies, television, magazines, and music.  We have become conditioned against morality and toward immorality.  The propaganda seems to center on the fact that if one is in love or engaged, having sex is all right.  Of course, most of my high school friends were in love when they had sex with each of their boyfriends.  I am trying to remember just how many times I was in love during my four years of high school—and I didn’t have sex with each of those guys!!   Now, I am not saying that I was a perfect goody two shoes, but my point is that young people just should not use that excuse for behavior that they know is wrong.

There are many reasons that premarital sex is wrong.   First, it is a sin against God and one’s own body.  It will cause guilt feelings and a fear of judgment and separation from God on a spiritual level.  Of course, there are also  physical consequences.  The possibility of pregnancy is apparent, since there is no 100 percent effective birth control.  I have learned this the hard way!  Even if a person doesn’t get pregnant, there are approximately fifteen different sexually transmitted diseases that can be contracted.  When a person has sex , they are basically having sex with every person that their sexual partner has ever had sex with and every person that those people have ever had sex with.  That number could be astounding—into the hundreds.  Of course, there is no cure for Herpes II, AIDS, and several other diseases that can be contracted.  Even if you happen to get lucky, and let’s say, only come down with a mild case of the “clap”, that would just be so embarassing.  Of course, premarital sex can definitely wreck a potentially good relationship and keep a person trapped in a bad one.  If the relationship before marriage is primarily physical, it produces a shallow relationship, and there is no communication that builds a real friendship that can develop into “the real thing”, which is what most people are truly looking for in a marriage partner.  Premarital sex can seduce many into glamourizing a dysfunctional relationship that is doomed for failure.  Another reason that premarital sex is a bad idea is that if immorality occurs now, there is no guarantee that there will not be infidelity after marriage since premarital sex is a good indicator of a lack of moral standards and emotional control.  How can you be sure that this is the one for all time, for living happily ever after?  Lastly, these premarital sexual memories can destroy future romance and can result in frigidity.  Then, again, it is much harder for parents to teach morality to their children when they themselves did not follow moral standards.  It is better to break off a premarital relationship to see whether it was just a physical relationship or if there is genuine love, compatibility, and responsibility enough for a good marriage.  If not, the break should be complete and final.  It is far better to avoid premarital sex and wait for the person you will actually commit to spending the rest of your life with, than to live a life of regrets, serial sex partners, and possible disease and death.  These are very good reasons to —just say no!

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